Blogging confession: I am a big fan of round-up posts. I don’t do them regularly because I don’t always have time to read a bunch during the week but I am hoping to change that. We all like to read interesting and helpful things and here’s what helped or interested me this week, in no particular order:
When There is No Normal – The Good Men Project
I’ve quickly become a fan of The Good Men Project over the past month or so. It’s like Jezebel, for men, but woman can read too. They have some great stories and it’s not all “he-man woman hater’s club” over there or anything. Just good stories about and for good men. This one is about a father raising a son who has been diagnosed with schizophrenia.
I was devastated by the news. Every hope and dream I had for my son evaporated. I scoured the internet and learned everything I could about schizophrenia.
Why Didn’t You Just Do What You Were Told – London Review of Book
A memoir piece written by Jenny Diski and found via Longform blog I could totally relate to this story of a bad girl being asked why she didn’t just behave as a teenager rather than cause so much trouble. SHe seems perplexed at being asked that and while I have never been asked that just the thought occurring gave me the same feeling. I never felt like “just doing as I was told” was an option. Like Jenn, not only was I not told much of anything about what I ought to be doing until I was already in trouble for not doing it but I was also just a very “difficult” girl. THose two situations combined and as you can imagine life was a little chaotic for me in my formative years and I have spent all of my adult life trying to overcome the emotional damage and the bad choices.
You were very difficult, they tell me. You are very difficult, they say. It turned out that ‘doing what I was told’ was not so much following orders, it was some innate understanding of how the world was supposed to work and conforming to it, so as not to make trouble. By the time someone had to tell me what to do, it was already too late.
The Bright and Shiny World Outside My Bubble – The Professionally Depressed Professional
Here at Zen and Pi I do my best to keep things positive, when I feel positive, but when I don’t, I write about that too. When it comes to positivity some people can take it to an extreme. Telling others to stay positive can be both frustrating and invalidating for other people, especially those struggling with mental or physical illness. Laura at WTF Am I On About Now? has written extensively on the “Tyranny of the Positive” and lead me to this post when she recently reblogged it.
I know that it will never go away entirely, and that’s okay; and, it’s okay to feel negatively, to wallow in hopelessness and despair as long as I have a support system of people who listen to understand; and, on those days when I’m barely able to get out of bed for more than 10 minutes, I know that thinking negatively is okay, not wrong or shameful. It means I’m fully alive.
Unusual Twitter Alerts – Isaac Hepworth
Want to make funny Twitter alerts? Check out Isaac Hepworth’s post on how he put together a template whereby we can all make up our own imaginary Twitter notifications and prompts. I haven’t used it yet but I did find the examples to be very funny.
The So What? Test – Austin Kleon
If you’ve been reading here awhile you know I have mentioned Austin Kleon here more than a couple times. His books Steal Like an Artist and Show Your Work have changed the way I think about creativity. This week he wrote a post about what he calls the “So What? Test”. It’s actually an excerpt from his book Show Your Work but it’s helps when you are unsure about whether to hit that Publish button or not.
And there you have it, sit back, relax,and enjoy some good reads from around the web on this beautiful Saturday morning :)