If We Were Having Coffee – Forgivness, the Cats and the Snakes, and a Big Birthday Countdown

If we were having coffee I would order something iced and insist we drink it outside since the weather is so nice. I want to enjoy it while I can because here in Colorado you never know if spring has finally come or if Mother Nature has decided she would like to play with you emotions and let you think has arrived right before dumping 6 or 9 inches of snow on you. I am a bit paranoid when it comes to the weather here but the weather woman on the news has assured me that the worst I will see is a bit of rain toward the end of the week.

If we were having coffee I would have to get right to it and tell you the good news, me and my little brother are mending our relationship. See, it’s been over a year now that we haven’t talked. Long story short, we got into a fight because my girlfriend was a bit hard on our little sister one day for missing so much school. She thought she was doing the right thing and my brother thought I should have defended our sister. So we yell at each other and said some things we shouldn’t have and because he is the most stubborn person in the world he refused to make up with me. Until yesterday.

He text me to say that while he believes he was right in his action he no longer wants to fight and the even said he loves me and misses me, something almost never said in my family. I text him back I felt the same and we talked a bit about how he is doing. apparently he plans to get his high school diploma and join the military. After that he wants to become a police officer. I am worried for him but I’m happy he has a plan and is working toward doing something fulfilling. I am proud of him.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that we have decide not to give up our cats yet. In case you didn’t know, we have three cats, Sophia, Calvin, and Quinn. Sophia is the older cat, we’ve had her for over 10 years. Last summer my aunt’s cat had a litter and I thought we ought to take one. Then I thought maybe we ought to take two so they could play together and not bother Sophia so much. Oh how wrong I was. These two cats have wrecked so much havoc in this house!

A few weeks ago we’d had enough of them tearing up everything and tormenting Sophia and we decided to surrender them to a shelter. But when it came time to take them we felt bad. They are young and we know they will calm down, plus we hadn’t really tried all that hard to cat proof the place and work on teaching them what was okay and what wasn’t. They are our responsibility and we have to try. I would hate for them to get put down at a shelter just because I couldn’t try a little harder. Plus, we do kinda love them. So they are here to stay for at least a few more months, then we will think about it again.

Having lost our dogs over the past few years we just can’t bring ourselves to give these cats up.

If we were having coffee I would also tell you that the weather getting nicer means my new snake will be on her way soon. This weekend I started getting things set up for her and I have all the important stuff ready and next weekend I will work on the decoration. I got new shelving to house both the new snake and the one I already have. I have her enclosure and the heating pad, thermometer, and thermostat going. I have to make sure I can achieve temperatures between 75 and 83 degrees, and 90% humidity levels. I know, weird hobbies.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that it is less than a month now before my birthday (April 13th), on which I will leave my twenties behind and become a real adult. Yes, I will be turning 30 and while part of me insists it is not a big deal and life will carry on the same as it has been I can’t help but feel a little sad. I feel like my youth will be firmly behind me and I mourn the loss of it. At the same time though I look forward to the confidence that will come with age and wisdom. I already feel like I know myself better and am less willing to compromise who I am. I feel a bit more sure about the future then I did before and I think age has a lot to do with it.

But more immediately, I am also trying to figure out how to celebrate turning 30 and leaving my youth behind. Usually my birthday gets celebrated in stages. I go out with friends, I got out with one part of my family, and then the other, I go out with in-laws, then I go out with my lady. That’s a lot of birthday but it maximizes the amount of free dinners I get and none of the family has to feel awkward with any other family they don’t want to be with. I don’t know if I should try to do something different and get everyone together for a big party, or if I should keep it low-key and celebrate the same as I always do. This is very important because I don’t want to regret whatever I chose to do later in life.

If we were having coffee I would say thank you for stopping by and listening to me vent. I look forward to it every week. I have to go now but I hope your week was nice and I wish you luck in the one coming up. Enjoy the rest of your Sunday, Monday will be here very soon.

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5 thoughts on “If We Were Having Coffee – Forgivness, the Cats and the Snakes, and a Big Birthday Countdown”

  1. If we were having coffee, I’d have to have a refill to catch up on all the important news you had to share this week! I’m especially happy that things are going better with your brother. And, while it is true in a sense, that you are leaving your youth behind when the clock magically clicks “30”, I do have to smile at that. It isn’t quite so cut and dried. :)

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  2. I’m glad to hear that you are beginning to work things about with your brother. And that you’re going to work on keeping the cats. I’m sure it’s difficult to try and deal with all 3 of them, but it’ll also be rewarding. And awesome on the snake—what kind? I don’t think I could live with one—I’m more than a little scared of them–but I think they’re neat to look at. :)

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  3. Happy early birthday. I’m glad you aren’t giving up your cats. I actually thought about you and your girlfriend missing your two wild young kittens. I was hoping you’d change your minds.

    Here’s to spring! Winter 2015 can suck it.

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  4. I hope it all works out with the kitty cats. Sometimes I miss having one. Mine died over Labor Day weekend in three years ago and I just haven’t had the heart to get another. They can’t be replaced when you lose one you’ve had for a long time.

    I hope you figure out what will work best for your birthday celebrations. I think you should figure out what YOU want to do and just do that. It’s your birthday…you make it a happy one and forget pleasing all the others. But family is important so I think you just need to think some more on it and see what you can figure out.

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