It’s that time again. Yes, it’s Monday and yes, we have to get going and get stuff done!
Unfortunately I am not my usual motivated self this week. This week I am feeling a little stressed out. It seems lately my life has been filled with a few more speed bumps than usual and I expect more to come. This week I plan to work on learning to handle the stress better and work on finding solutions and not just worrying and doing nothing.
I like to think I am a “go with the flow” kind of person, taking everything in stride, but I am realizing not that that isn’t entirely true. Sure, if there is only one thing going wrong I’m fine. When two or more things are going wrong, I am a mess. Right now I have two or more things going wrong and I am a definitely a mess.
I’m overwhelmed by how much needs to be done which causes me to shut down and do nothing. Nothing but over think my problems and beat myself up about how I can’t do anything to fix any of it. I basically spiral into a well of sadness, pessimism, and self-hate.
This week I am going to stop that downward spiral.
This week I am going to remind myself that obsessively worrying about a problem does not solve the problem. Problems are solved by making a plan and taking action! I’m not always good at thinking about how to make things better. I’m not always good at solutions. I can try a few things though. I can write things down, I can ask for advice, and I can use the power of Google.
Once I find a solution to try, I then have to try it. My current way of planning solutions ends when I have more than one course of action that can be taken and I find I have an inability to make a decision. I weigh the pros and cons and I seek approval for my options from others, then I go right back to weighing the pros and cons.
This week I am done doing nothing but sitting around and thinking! I have to get up and do what needs to be done to change make the changes in my life. If I have to flip a coin to make a choice then I will. Then I will try a solution and if it doesn’t work then I will try another. Eventually things will get fixed, or they won’t and I’ll move on.
This week I am also going to remind myself that sometimes there is no solution and I just have to be brave and get through the tough times. I have to be gentle with myself, I am doing my best. Everyone deals with problems. Things are going to go wrong, that’s life. going through tough times is not a reflection of my character, and has nothing to do with whether I am a good person, or whether I am brave or strong.
How you deal with the bad times in life is what determines your character and level of bravery and I want to be the kind of person who faces my problems, not the kind that runs and hides. It will take some self-awareness and some patience but I can do this.
I just have to keep telling myself that what’s coming is coming, and then meet it when it does.