If We Were Having Coffee // I’m Back and Things Are Different Now

Hello there! Thank you for stopping by, I know I missed our coffee talk last week and I am terribly sorry about that. I was on a much needed get-away with my girlfriend. We needed to unwind plus it was to celebrate the grand accomplishment of keeping our relationship somewhat intact for a whole 13 years! Still can’t believe it’s been that long.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that I didn’t forget about you though.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that these past couple of weeks have been a bit stressful. Last time we had coffee I told you there was a big secret to tell but that I couldn’t tell you yet. Well I’ve already let that cat out of the bag since but just in case you haven’t been around the big news is that my lady got a very big promotion at work and it has changed a lot of things for us.

Now she works at another location now and she works long hours. This means we went from spending a ton of time together everyday to not much at all. I know most couples don’t see each other as much as we do but I can’t help feeling a bit of an emotional shock. I don’t deal well with change.

I think I am coping okay though….maybe not.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that I met some new blogging friends this week. I’ve been joining a few Twitter chats there and now that I have figure them out they are a ton of fun. I joined #BufferChat again but it wasn’t as fun as the week before. I tried out #USBloggerChat which was a bit smaller and easier to keep up with. I missed #BDIB since it falls during my work hours but I hope to give #lbloggers a try later today.

I’ve kinda become obsessed with doing these chats now. At first I struggled to keep up with them all but I am slowly developing a system. I open 3 or for tabs, one for the hashtag, one for the host, one for my notifications, and one more for when I have to look up anything really quick.

If we were having coffee I would say you should join in sometime :)

If we were having coffee I would tell you that I have finally started drawing again. Well I drew yesterday. Another blogger I follow had the idea to have her kids collect things for her to draw which sounded like a genius idea. I always struggle to find things to draw. So me and my girlfriend and the dog took a little walk and collected leaves, pine cones, a weed, and later I got a feather. and I put pen and pencil to paper for the first time in a year yesterday.


I think I did pretty good considering. It felt really nice to zone out and do my thing. I let my hands and eyes do all the work and the rest of the world just fades away. I already have a couple of things to draw today and as soon as we are done here I’ll be back at it.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that I have finished another book. I read Damned by Chuck Palahniuk. I hated it but it did get better in the middle and I had hope and then the ending sucked and now I am mad. Next up is Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austen. I recently bought a box set of three of her books so it’s going to be Jane Austen for awhile.

Goodreads tells me that I am 10 books behind schedule in my reading goal for the year. TEN BOOKS. I am determined to catch up though so I am powering through as many books as I can this week. I should be able to make the time up because once again I am having to quit smoking cigarettes.

If we were having coffee I would say I know I have told you that I would quit smoking three or five times now but it is really hard when all of my friends are smokers. This time three of them are quitting with me and if I fail again I am going to make a doctor’s appointment and talk about what options I have. I’ve tried the patch, which  gave me a nasty skin rash, and I’ve tried Chantix which worked but I didn’t have insurance to get more.

I really hope I can kick the habit for good this time.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that I needed to get going. I’m not seeing my family today but my girlfriend is very sick so I need to take care of her. I am afraid she either has strep throat or the flu. The has a sore throat, a sore body, cough, nausea, runny nose, headaches, she’s miserable. I am keeping her on tea, water, orange juice, and Dayquil. She’s been in bed most of the weekend too.

I’m also trying not to get sick myself :/

Her being sick also means that all weekend chores are now my responsibility and the dishes and the laundry have been piling up. I have a long day ahead of me.

I hope you had a wonderful week! Thank you for stopping by to check on me, it means a lot :)

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11 Replies to “If We Were Having Coffee // I’m Back and Things Are Different Now”

  1. Lisa, I love your “If we were having coffee” posts. They are full of what is going on in your neck of the woods. Here’s hoping your girlfriend get’s better and that you don’t get sick as well.
    Good new about the job promotion . Bad news on the fact you won’t be spending much time together. I am so glad you got your time away.
    Have a gentle , relaxing week,
    Hugs Sarah.


  2. Wow, congrats on 13 years together! That’s pretty amazing. :) Sorry to hear that you’re not able to spend as much time with one another lately, though. Even though a job promotion is a good thing, missing time together is still an adjustment. My husband went back to office work this week after the two of us spending several months working out of home together, and that’s definitely been an adjustment.

    Good luck with quitting smoking—I quit a few months ago. It was pretty easy to actually quit, because I had pneumonia and didn’t want to smoke, but it’s more difficult to *stay* quit now. This is the 3rd time I’ve quit, though, so I’m hoping the 3rd time is the charm. Seems like smoking wouldn’t be so difficult to give up, but it’s a right pain.


    1. Thanks!

      I’ve probably quit smoking about six times now. I didn’t fair well this last week but I am smoking a lot less than usual. I have to take it day-by-day right now and not worry too much about it when I cave and smoke another. I just wake up every morning I tell myself “I am not going to smoke today”.

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      1. I’ve quit and started again and quit again so many times—I didn’t smoke while pregnant, and there are various other times I’ve not smoked for a while, but then sooner or later I am stressed out enough to have one, and that snowballs. It’s so difficult to quit for good.


  3. I hope you two are able to carve out as much time to spend together as you can. I know it’s important for you…for both of you and for your relationship, no matter how long you’ve been together. Yay for the drawing! I never could draw. Maybe one day I’ll take a class or something. And Twitter chats…I’ve wondered about those. I have not participated in them. I don’t really get Twitter. I need to spend time there to figure it all out. I tweet blog post shares. I sometimes answer the notifications and thank people and retweet but not so much. I need to do that.


    1. We are working on it :)

      The Twitter chat thing has been great! I’m not good at Twitter at all so it helps me meet new people on there and gives me more confidence to jump in and talk to people. I highly recommend it!


  4. An idea on the Twitter chats — I use Tweetdeck, and found that I can basically take that same approach, but have it all in one window (using their columns) which makes it much easier to keep tabs on :)
    Good luck with the quitting smoking! YOU CAN DO IT!


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