Straighten Up Your Heart

Good morning friends! Welcome to another work week. Every week I make an effort to change my view of the most hated day of the week. Instead of seeing it as a a sad end to relaxing weekends and resenting the forced return to work I do my best to see the day as a new beginning. I do my best to set the tone for the rest of the week. I try not to complain or waste the day wishing it were over.

Despite my attempts to change my view of Mondays I still find that I wake up in the worst mood every time it comes around. I am tired and I do not want to go to work so my mind naturally gets pissed off about everything. The worst part is I sometimes end up taking it out on the people around me.

Without thinking I blame others for my every frustration and become a bit of an asshole, grumbling and complaining and bringing everyone down. My poor girlfriend gets the worst of it. She tries hard to help me in the mornings and in my bad mood I blame her for anything that goes wrong. Then I get to work and my coworkers hear it. Nothing they do is right and everything they say angers and offends me.

I know this is no way to treat people but it’s been a hard habit to break because I’m hardly aware of it until it’s too late. I want to do better though.

“Every day People straighten up the hair, why not the heart?”

Ernesto “Che” Guevara

Every morning we prepare our outward appearance for the day. We clean our bodies and faces. We comb our hair and put on make up. We shave and spray on cologne or perfume. We do everything we can to make our outsides presentable to the world but we do nothing to prepare our hearts for the day. Why not?

What if every morning you took time to fix up your heart so that you could treat people with respect? You could stop to remind yourself that other people are entitled to the same basic needs you yourself crave. Other people deserve compassion and understanding. Other people deserve to be heard and made to feel like they matter in this world. You would want that for yourself, why would you think others didn’t want it too?

If more people woke up in the morning and reminded themselves of the Golden Rule I bet this world would be a much nicer place to live in. If nothing else Mondays might start off on a much happier note and you would have the satisfaction of knowing you might have made another’s day better by making an effort not to use them as an outlet for your own frustrations and treating them with a little respect.

If we all left our homes with love for our fellow human beings instead of wanting to shut them all out we could enjoy a commute with less rage and a work place with less hostility. We could stand in line at the coffee shop and not feel hatred for those in front of us. We could forgive our coworkers for being late or unprepared. We could have empathy and caring in more aspects of our lives. We could stop holding on to anger and grudges for perceived slights that may have not been intended.

So, every morning, while you get dressed, while you curl your hair, while you brush your teeth, think to yourself how you would want to be treated and resolve to treat others that way. While you eat your breakfast, while you drink your coffee, and as you lock up your house, allow yourself to feel love for the other 7 billion people in world. Straighten up your heart while you get your mind and outward appearance ready for the day and help make Monday’s better for everyone.

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Lisa

Hello! My name is Lisa. I find the human condition fascinating and I often write stuff about that. I blog at zenandpi.com but you can also find me on Twitter, Tumblr, and Instagram, and if you like what I do, consider signing up for my newsletter. Thanks :)

6 thoughts on “Straighten Up Your Heart”

  1. Such a nice way of thinking of it – straightening up our hearts. When I was going through a particularly difficult year at work (and in my personal life) a couple years ago, I used to wake up and have the goal of setting two or three intentions for the day – how I wanted to treat myself, treat others and the kind of person I wanted to be. I would even write acronyms on my hand to look down at throughout the day to remind myself to breathe or have compassion for myself and others. It was a lot of effort, but it helped me get through. Now, I don’t have to keep the acronyms on my hand, but I still put in the work to cast out those negative thoughts at the beginning of the day. Always a work in progress.

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  2. Lisa,
    Thank you for your sage advice. If only more people would just leave “… our homes with love for our fellow human beings instead of wanting to shut them all out…” is what I attempt to practice every day. I love all human, and non-human, life and it can be a chore to keep those positive thoughts in place on a regular basis. Life is precious, love is limitless, but starting one’s week with a less-than-positive thought sets the tone for how that week is either going progress or digress. Now, I said that I love everybody, equally and unequivocally, however there are those that I do not like. I can love someone and not like them for what they did/didn’t do, said/didn’t say, or whatever sets me off. I do not hate, or love the person any less, just the actions/inactions or relevant events that lead to the inevitable dislike for the person (or entities) actions.

    I practice, as best possible, what I would expect of others. I attempt to give everyone a chance to see a better aspect of me and hope that my actions/reactions empower others to follow a similar path. Although difficult, I do find that if a person has insulted me or generated a fair amount of negative energy, it’s much more difficult to snap back from that.

    One key note, and I do what I can to believe it wholeheartedly, is that no-one can make you feel anything you do not want to feel. If you want to be happy, then be happy no matter the circumstances and do not let the grumpiness of others weigh you down. It’s not easy, and I speak from personal experiences, but it can be done.

    Again, some good points and kind suggestions go a long way and it’s most appreciated when shared by more commonalities than less generalities.

    To Be Continued…

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  3. Thank you for this reminder! I am definitely one of those people who wants to be left alone on the bus and not talked to right away in the morning, and I can relate with being grumpy at the undeserving significant other. I do think it’s okay to want alone time while you prep for your work, but you’re right — if we just remember what we have and that everyone around us is a human being, we might not only have a better (Mon)day, but also just generally be happier people. Thanks again!

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  4. Let me know how it is working out. Danny goes back to Early Field Duties this weekend and I am dreading it. I HATE Mornings. I seldom feel good. Even If I am in a good mood or at leat pretend to be…..Danny NEVER is.
    His mood often sets me off for the whole day.
    HUGS

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