Good morning dearies and welcome to another work week. As most of you know, Mondays are always rough for me but I am trying, week by week, to change my attitude and learn to love the most hated day of the week. I don’t want to waste a whole day out of every week of my life grumbling and grouchy. I want to think of Mondays as a new beginning and a chance to start the week off on the right foot.
This month I am choosing to focus on the principles of Thanksgiving (even if the story of the Native Americans and the Pilgrims coming together to share a feast is a complete lie) and learn to appreciate the life I have and the people who share that life with me. Part of that is not just feeling thankful is showing you are thankful. This week I am going to work on thanking people more and letting them know exactly how they have helped me or made my life better.
Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.
– William Arthur Ward
Gratitude is a word that most have forgotten. Gratitude is thankfulness made visible. It means taking you feelings and showing them by either expressing them verbally or returning the favor in kind. Usually this part is saved for Christmas time, when we celebrate each other by giving gifts, but the season has been robbed of it’s message and we tend to focus too much on our own families and not the people we might not be as close to, people you might not even know, but nonetheless make our lives easier.
For example your coworkers. The ones who see you have a lot on you plate and offer to take over a task so you could step away or get some food. The ones who make sure to ask about your weekend and really listen when you tell them how it went. The ones who offer to get you something when they go to lunch because they know you like Chipotle, or Panda Express.The ones who tell you it’s okay to go home early because you don’t feel good, they got this. They are a part of your community and they all work with you to keep you at your best. Thank them!
What about the people working tirelessly to bring you services you take for granted all the time. The mail woman who shows up day in and day out, or the trash men who come rain or shine and cart away your waste. What about the school bus driver who works hard to get your kids to and from school safe and sound? The waiters, the cashiers and baggers, the mechanics who fix your car and the barista that makes your coffee. Don’t look past these people like they don’t exist. Think about what your life would be without them and thank them!
As for your close family and friends try to think of a way to thank them that is personal and thoughtful. Don’t just spring for a generic card and a gift card to a big box store. Make them something, write them a letter, tell them why you appreciate them. Let them know exactly what they mean to you in the sweetest, corniest way you can. Get emotional, be vulnerable, tell them how you feel because in this world too many people feel unseen and unappreciated. If we all took a little time to really thank each other, with feeling, then we would all know we mattered to somebody.
Who knows, maybe you matter to someone you barely know too.