Hello and happy Monday to you all. Mine has been a busy one already and to be honest I’d like nothing more than to head back home and crawl into my nice warm bed. But that is not what Mondays are for. Mondays are a new start and a fresh chance to make changes in our lives that move us forward and make us happy.
This month I am doing my best to incorporate the principles of Thanksgiving into my daily routine. (Even if the story of the Native Americans and the Pilgrims coming together to share a feast is a complete lie). I am working on being thankful for what I have, showing gratitude, connecting with, and appreciating, my community.
This week I am doing something a little different and thanking the person for whom I give credit for all my happiness. This week I am thankful for the love of my amazing girlfriend. I know without a doubt that without her, my life would be less joyful, less fulfilling, and certainly less comfortable and secure.
“Thank you…for gracing my life with your lovely presence, for adding the sweet measure of your soul to my existence.”
― Richard Matheson, What Dreams May Come
Of course I am thankful for the love of all my family and friends but her love has changed me in a way I would never know was possible had I not experienced it first hand. Romantic love is so different from the other kinds of love we have in life. It is the love you have for someone who sees you at your best and often at your worst. This love reminds you that you are not an island. It reminds you that going through life with a teammate and a witness is the greatest gift this life can offer.
My lady is there when I have bad days. She is there to help me through life’s demands and hard choices. She is there to struggle with me and to enjoy the rewards of that struggle. She supports me in my crazy plans and ideas. She listens when I need an ear and she tells me the hard truths no one else will.
One of the things that makes me saddest in this world is when I hear someone who has that kind of love complain about it. I hate to hear that love is being taken for granted. I once had a coworker, after spending a few minutes complaining about his wife, look at me and say “after 14 years there just isn’t anything to talk about anymore, you know?”. No I don’t know, and I hope I never do! After 13 years together me and my girlfriend still talk, joke, and vent together every day.
I think this coworker had gotten lazy in his relationship. He forgot to love and cherish his wife. He forgot what brought them together in the first place. Worst of all, he forgot what it was like before he had her. If you are in a relationship, remember to appreciate what your significant other has given you. Remember to show gratitude and to return the favor. If you can’t do that, then I urge you to love them enough to consider letting them go.
I know that not everyone is lucky enough to have this kind of love in their life. Even our love has not been without its ups and downs and there were times in the past when we almost lost each other. We were lucky and we got through the bad times. I hope we will continue to be lucky and make it through many more.
Even if you’ve loved and lost, you have to admit that when it was good, it was really good. I hope you can look back and see the good that kind of love did for you. If you loved and that love was not returned, be grateful that your capacity for love was proven and do not give up trying to find someone who will return your affections. Be grateful there is even a chance in this world to have that kind of love some time.
As for me, this week I will have a little time off of work with the love of my life and I plan to tell her how much she has meant to me over the years. I hope to remember to do it more often because, without her, my life would be a very lonely and harsh one.
Without her I would never have known how beautiful a place this world could be.
“I want to thank you for the profound joy I’ve had in the in the thought of you.”
― Rosie Alison, The Very Thought of You