If We Were Having Coffee // Good Weather and Big Changes

Good morning and happy Sunday to you all! I’m pretty excited for our coffee date this week because I am finally feeling like I am 100% over that god awful flu I had a few weeks ago. I had begun to feel better a while ago but a cough has lingered on and frustrated and exhausted me daily. This weekend I have hardly coughed at all though and I imagine in the coming week it will disappear altogether. Woot woot!

My mood is also improved because this past week we saw some beautiful weather and I felt some relief from my winter blues. I know the East coast is suffering under a crap ton of snow but here we got a taste of what spring is going to be like. The nights were still been very cold but by Friday afternoon, I didn’t need anything more than a light jacket. Sadly, it won’t last. I hear we may see a little snow by this afternoon.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that I am pretty proud of myself, I finally finished reading The Souls of Black Folk by W.E.B. Du Bois. It isn’t a long book but it is was a hard read for me. I actually started it reading it the first almost a year ago. I didn’t get very far before I put it down. I think it just wasn’t what I expected. I tried again this month and everything clicked this time. Turns out it is an amazing book and I feel like it has affected me deeply. There was so much I learned and so many more questions I have. When I gather my thought a bit better I’ll write a proper post on it.

Now I am on to Persuasion by Jane Austin, the second of three Austin books I bought some months ago. Like Pride and Prejudice, I am not a big fan so far, it isn’t a hard read but it is kinda boring. Also like Pride and Prejudice, I am hoping the second half is where all the good stuff happens. It’s possible that is Austin’s formula, spend the first half introducing a million characters and places, then in the second part just focus on the two that matter. We shall see.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that it seems there are going to be some big changes happening in my family. I hadn’t mentioned it yet, I wasn’t sure it was okay to, but it looks like I am going to be an Aunt again. My little brother (he’s 20) has announced that he and his girlfriend (she’s 18) are expecting. They are young but I have to give him credit, since he found out he has been very happy and very involved. He’s called me twice to ask about the process of buying a home and how to learn more about personal finance. They have a support system and they have plans for their careers. He’s working to become a firefighter and she wants to be a nurse.

I’m glad they are taking this very seriously and doing their best to make a plan for the future.

I would also mention that there is a possibility we all might be splitting up. My mother is planning to move back to Missouri, where my stepfather’s family is from. She will take my littlest sister, and maybe my brother, his girlfriend, and the new baby too. My other sister may be leaving for Texas with her family and their kids. If everyone goes me and my lady might start seriously thinking about moving too. We’ve never been very happy here and somewhere warmer, or with readily available fresh seafood, sounds really nice.


If we were having coffee I would want to change the subject. Thinking of my family leaving makes me a little sad. I would move on to a more cheerful subject, like the fact that as of today I have been 60 days smoke-free! YAY!

By now the idea of smoking a cigarette sounds gross but I do miss everything else that went along with being a smoker. I miss having an excuse to get away whenever I wanted. I miss having something that would instantly make me feel better when I got frustrated or stressed out. I miss the fun I used to have hanging out with other smokers. I miss the way coffee and cigarettes just went together.

I do not miss the smell, or the money I spent, or being out in the cold because I couldn’t resist the craving. I don’t miss depending on something that was slowly killing me and I don’t miss the looks of disgust and disappointment I got from the non-smokers I knew. I’m happier now that I quit but I think I will always miss being a smoker.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that I had better get going. I hate to leave, really I do, but my little brother-in-law is visiting and I want to spend some time with him before we have to drop him back off. I also have to get some of this housework done because later we have a movie date planned. We got some free tickets to a showing of Tarantino’s Jackie Brown, in 35mm. Woot woot!

I hope your week was good and you are doing well. Please, let me know in the comments, I’d love to hear from you :)


Featured image via William Murphy



7 Replies to “If We Were Having Coffee // Good Weather and Big Changes”

  1. It sounds like you are going through a transition time right now. Those are always tough for me. I’ve found if I’m open to the changes and possibilities, the transitions come with tremendous growth.


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