If We Were Having Coffee // Self-Care Sunday

Hello, hello, dear reader! Thank you so much for stopping by for a bit of strong brew and a chat. If you don’t mind, I’d rather we have some cold brew. It’s going to be another hot one today, almost 100 degrees, and I am not in the mood for anything warm. In fact, instead of a big Sunday breakfast, I am going to settle for a cold smoothie, so I don’t have to operate the stove at all.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that it’s been a very busy week around here.

Monday we celebrated my nephew’s 8th birthday which was, in my opinion, a success.

I was afraid he wouldn’t like the gifts we bought, but, as usual, he loved them. He got some Finding Dory figurines and a Finding Dory watercolor set, a National Geographic book of facts about everything, and a book of trivia questions about gross things little boys like, like bugs and weird animals.

Tuesday we were back at work and that night my girlfriend had back to back kickball games. Yes, she plays in a kickball league.

Wednesday we took my niece and nephew to an advance screening of The Secret life of Pets, which turned out to be a pretty funny movie.

Thursday we went to see my sister and her kids again to say our final goodbye’s before they left for Texas.

Friday we sat around being bummed that the kids were leaving and that we had been too busy to pack for a camping trip with our friends.

We were so bummed we treated ourselves to a lot of wine and lots of oysters. Our food and drink combo of choice when life gets hard.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that my sister and her family made it to their new home safe and sound. Normally I would be seeing them today and knowing that I can’t hurts a bit. I miss them terribly already. Those kids brought a lot of energy and joy to me and my girlfriend’s life and without them we are afraid that life will get a bit bland.

Then again, it might just be the kick in the ass we need to start looking into having our own kids…maybe.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I am doing my best to limit my social media exposure, and I am avoiding news outlets entirely today. Last week’s shootings of Alton Sterling and Philando Castille at the hands of police officers and the police officers who were killed in the line of duty this week in Dallas were all too much for me.

I’m angry and exhausted by my anger. I’m tired of police officers deciding who lives and dies. I’m angry that police officers don’t seem to see black people as people, deserving of due process. I am tired of hearing excuses. the

I’m angry that someone thought the answer was to kill white cops. I’m angry that the movement has been tainted. I am angry that the narrative has changed. I am angry that instead of seeing the pain of black people, the world will see this one man’s retaliation. It’s awful.

So today I am going to take care of myself. The images I have seen in videos lately have brought me to tears and invaded my dreams. I need a break. I won’t forget; I promise you that, but I need a day to heal. I need a day to forget the violence and hatred that exists outside my front door. Today I will pamper myself and pretend that everything is a-okay.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that my cup is empty, and it’s getting late, I still have so much to do to prepare for the coming week, and if I don’t want to be doing it in the sweltering afternoon heat, I had better get going. We don’t have air conditioning and the swamp cooler only does so much. If I’m lucky and I get the housework and the shopping done, I can nap through the worst of the heat.

I hope you had a wonderful week and as always I am so grateful for these visits. They help. I would love to hear what you have been up to so please drop a comment or leave a link to your own coffee post. I’ll be around to read and reply.

Until next time, take care of yourself :)

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3 Replies to “If We Were Having Coffee // Self-Care Sunday”

  1. If you were having coffee with me, we would be trying to light a fire in the fire place and I would say isn’t strange how it takes a whole match box and some lighter fluid to start a fire yet one careless match can start a veld fire….
    Now that we have a nice warm fire I’d tell you freezing it’s been for the past couple of days winter is definitely here…..
    I try not to watch the news as well it’s like good things don’t happen in the world…… Only riots and stuff


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