If We Were Having Coffee // A Bad Week that Wasn’t so Bad

“A friend of coffee is a friend of mine.”

― Death Wish Coffee

Hello, dear readers. Thank you for stopping by for a bit of coffee and catching up with me. I did my best to get going early this morning. It helped that I had to be up anyway. My stomach waking me up every morning around 5:30, just in time for medication and work, is my new normal. Unfortunately, my gut isn’t aware that it is the weekend, so here we are. The weather is gorgeous so I have the windows open and the cold brew already made.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that this past week was not the best but sometimes when you get through a bad week, when you do your best and get everything done that you needed to, it feels like a good week anyway.

Work was frustrating. I can’t go into a lot of detail but imagine if you had a goal or task that took place over the course of months every year. Imagine are awesome and complete your tasks on time, every year. Then imagine that instead of getting to celebrate, relax, or move on to the next task, you were reminded by your boss that you were part of a team and that your job was to complete the work of other employees who hadn’t completed their tasks, every single year! It’s infuriating! But I’m taking care of myself. I set boundaries. I’m not going to stress myself out or overwork myself to complete this task.

But I’m taking care of myself. I set boundaries. I’m not going to stress myself out or overwork myself to complete this task. The get a couple of hours, two days a week, and that’s it, and from now on, instead of just checking in with my team, I will check in with other teams so that I can be free in April, as was always my goal.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you this week was a slow writing week. For most of the week, when I wasn’t working, I was just too tired. My health still isn’t back 100%, which reminds me, I finally had a consult with my GI doctor a whole month after my diagnosis! I’m angry it took so long, but I’m happy to have more information and a plan. It also helped that she started out by apologizing.

I’ll be honest, though, a lot of what she said was a bit depressing. She really made sure I understood that ulcerative colitis is for life. I can never stop treatment, and I can never lose my insurance. If I lose insurance treatment becomes too expensive. If I stop treatment, it may not work when I have to start again, and I will have to start again because ulcerative colitis is for life.

So, I’m back on the steroids, but at a lower dose, and an anti-inflammatory drug that I will take every day for the rest of my life. It will take a few more weeks to know for sure whether this plan will work or not but I’m hoping it will. If it doesn’t work, then I’ll have to move on to harsher drugs, and no one wants that. I’d much rather be taking these pills then giving myself injections or going in for infusions every few weeks. Keep your fingers crossed for me!


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that even though I didn’t post much, a few writing related things did happen. I had a piece published on Femsplain. I worked on a few things for Aloe, and, I found a fiction contest to enter if I can get my shit together.

I also changed a few things around here. Nothing big. I added a new page for work I’ve had published Elsewhere. I tweaked my About page and updated my Now page too, and I set up an account for donations/tips on Ko-fi. I don’t expect to get much now, but after I start working on some bigger projects I’m hoping to get a few bucks here and there to help keep my going. And finally, I spent a ton of time gathering ideas and information and talking with like-minded folks on both the Buffer Community and Femslack.

The Buffer Community is free if you would like to join but Femslack will cost you, or you can do what I did and write for them instead. It’s worth it!

It’s nice to feel like a part of a community—especially when it’s a secret “members only” one—and to know there are people I can ask questions of or vent to should I every need it. In fact, I’m thinking about setting up a community of my own in the future *wink, wink*


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that this coming week should be easier than the last, which means I plan to be hanging around here much more. I have a ton of comments piled up and awaiting replies—I’m so sorry!—and a few posts drafted and waiting to be shared. I want to catch up on the comings and goings of my blogging friends and find some new ones to follow too.

It’s the last before Spring Break too. I don’t have any big plans yet, but my girlfriend and I are hoping to find something big to do. We’d love to get out-of-state for a few days, but I’d settle for just out of the city if I could. Even that might not happen, though. We need a dog sitter first and our usual, my little sister, has school that week. Sigh.

I can’t tell you how badly I need this vacation. I am going crazy doing the same things day in and day out with nothing new to stimulate or inspire me. I don’t care what we do or where we go as long as it is away from work, home, and everyone I know.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that, sadly, we have come to that time. I love chatting with you all and if given half a chance I could probably go on all day long but there are rooms to clean, pets to care for, and shopping to be done, not to mention all the writing itching to get done. So, I’d better get off the internet and out into the real world.

I hope you had a wonderful week I hope you had a relaxing weekend too. Please, take a minute to drop a note in the comments and catch me up on everything that has been going on.

Until next time 🙂


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Written for to the Weekend Coffee Share link-up hosted by Nerd in the Brain

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10 Replies to “If We Were Having Coffee // A Bad Week that Wasn’t so Bad”

  1. It is important to set boundaries when it comes to work. I’ve had a stressful few weeks, attempting to get everything done at work. I could work lots of overtime, but I feel they get the best of me forty hours a week, and that’s all I can or want to give.

    Best of luck with treating the UC. It sounds like an intimidating disorder to have to constantly battle. Hang in there!

    (The dog tweet was priceless!)


  2. Red alert for me. Have you been test for Gluten Inolerance? It is often misdiagnosed as ulcerative colitis. Did I commented on this before? Good luck with your medicines. I too waited a month to hear the results of a test. The test was unnecessary.


    1. I was tested actually! The test came back negative, but I am advised to stay away from gluten if it makes me feel worse right now. I was misdiagnosed with IBS before this, but they are 100% sure this time. Thanks!

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      1. If you hadn’t been eating gluten your test be negative. Wheat and barley are the problems. Barley soups and salads dressing. It is either wheat or corn in most commercial foods. Good luck with your problems. There is also a bacteria ‘Holicobacter pylori’ that causes ulcers. Have you been tested for it.


  3. Hope you have a stress free week and can find a way to have a mini vacation. My son just finished his spring break this week. He drove (13 hours) to Daytona Beach, Florida with a car load of friends. The weather there was actually quite cool but he said it was fun anyway. Hang in there with the health issues. I’ve had to deal with IBS for most of my life and take meds regularly. There are always new advancements so you never know what might be right around the corner!


    1. Thanks! Sorry to hear you have IBS, the docs thought that was what I had too, at first. I still think I do, along with the ulcerative colitis, but right now this is more important since the inflammation can lead to higher chances of colon cancer. I hope there will be big advances for both soon! I could really use a cure right now :)

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  4. Good thoughts for you. I’ve heard the ‘this is for the rest of your life’ a few times now, and it’s never easy to hear. There’s something internal, buried deep that rebels against this statement, but I eventually have to accept… It’ll become part of the routine soon enough.

    Have a wonderful week.


    1. Thank you! I agree about the bit of rebellion inside. When I was first diagnosed, I was sure that this was the worst it would every get and that once I was on some meds, I would be back to my old self, doing everything I had done before all of this. Of course, that is impossible. I got sick again. My doc is a smart one, though, and she told me what I needed to hear in just the right way. For now, the rebellion is squashed. It’s nice to know someone understands, thank you.

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  5. Boundaries are essential. It is so easy to get snookered into doing unfair amounts. Kudos to you.
    I so hope they find the right mix of treatment for you. That is not an easy thing to live with. Who know what they will find in the future? best of luck to you!


  6. Dogs and cats can sleep with their noses buried in their asses because they spend a lot of time cleaning their asses, so their asses smell like their mouths, which are right under their noses. So it’s all the same to them.


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