If We Were Having Coffee // It’s My Birthday Month, and I’m Starting Again

“Even bad coffee is better than no coffee at all.”

— David Lynch

Hello, dear readers! Thank you for stopping by for a bit of coffee and catching up. I probably shouldn’t be having coffee, the caffeine and the acid are probably the last things my stomach needs, but I’m at home today, and coffee means a lot to me, so I will drink and deal with the consequences later. I know it will be worth every sip.

I know I haven’t  been around much lately, and we will get to why in a bit, but before we do I wanted to warn you that today’s post might contain some TMI subjects and descriptions and a bit of bad language. If you don’t want to hear that kind of thing maybe skip ahead a bit or skip away, I won’t mind I promise.

If we were having coffee, I would tell you that this week was fucking awful.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I know you, and everyone else, me included are probably tired of hearing me talk about my health and my medication and my anxiety and my hope that any day now I will start to feel better. You are probably tired of hearing week after week that I am still sick, but here I am telling you once again that I am still sick. Not just still, I’m actually worse and getting more and more worried as each day goes by.

Since my ulcerative colitis diagnosis, my whole life feels upended. All I can think about now is my stomach, and bathrooms, and what foods I can and can’t eat, and whether or not I can work today, and when my next doctors appointment is, and if this new pain is due to the disease or my medication, and what medication I am on and what medication will come next if this one doesn’t work, and whether or not I should call my doctor, and whether or not this is serious, and if I’m sleeping enough or too much, and oh god I have to go to the bathroom, again, again, again, again…..This is my life now, and there has been no room for writing anymore.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I feel overwhelmed by all the things I haven’t been able to do or finish because of all of this. I haven’t written a new post here in days, and the comments are piling up. I failed the Blogging A to Z Challenge before I was able to really get going. I’ve missed submission deadlines, and I haven’t sent a newsletter in weeks. I’m so far behind I don’t know where to even begin to catch up, but I want to.

I want to find a way back to doing all the things that made me feel good. I want to find a way to get back to telling my story and spreading my message. I want to finish what I started, so I am starting again.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that I think my first two Blogging A to Z posts turned out pretty good, and even though I couldn’t keep going I haven’t gotten over my need to talk about all the bad things in the world. So, I am picking up the project again and combining it with another project I can never seem to get my shit together enough to finish. I am going to make a zine/chapbook from the posts!

I have no idea when the thing will be done, now that I have given myself permission to work outside of the April deadline but I’d like to have a draft done by the middle of may. This will be my first physical thing I am making so please be patient, but I am promising that this thing will be a thing and I will keep you posted if you promise to keep me accountable.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that my birthday is coming up this week and despite everything, I am still excited. It’s not a big birthday, I’m just turning 32, but it’s my day and I take it very seriously. I like to think of the entire month of April as the time to celebrate me. I mean, your birthday is not just the day to mark when you came into the world but a time to celebrate another year that you got to be on this Earth. What could be more important?

I always think about how each birthday could be my last and it feels wrong not to make each one meaningful no matter how hard aging is or how depressing or bad the year has been. When you consider that there are so many people who won’t be getting a birthday this year your perspective changes. You realize that each one is a gift and worthy of celebration.

This year, like every year, I’ll be making time for dinners and drinks with family and friends and a bit of quiet reflection on the past year and planning for the next. I don’t ask for or expect gifts, I just want to see all the people who make my life meaningful but I know my girlfriend got me something good, she always buys the best gifts, and I’m anxious to find out what it is.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that I have come to the end of my cup of coffee and, sadly, the caffeine has done nothing for my energy levels. I need a nap. Thank you for chatting with me, it’s been good for me to get up and get typing again. I hope to keep the momentum going.

I hope you had a good week, and that your weekend was a relaxing one. If you have a minute drop by the comments and let me know how you have been and what you have been up to.

Until next time :)


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Written for to the Weekend Coffee Share link-up hosted by Nerd in the Brain

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15 Replies to “If We Were Having Coffee // It’s My Birthday Month, and I’m Starting Again”

  1. One problem with your A-Z is that you took on a huge project! I loved your two posts, but after reading them all I could think is, “How much time did she spend on these?” They were fabulous, though, but since you missed doing them in April, you might think one or two a week instead.

    I hope you feel better.


    1. Well, I had hoped to have more time to prepare and when I didn’t I hoped to have time in the evenings and during my long lunches at work to throw the rest together but a lot got in the way. I’m so sad I couldn’t keep up but I’m trying this new thing where I follow through now matter what so turning them into a different project makes it easier. Thanks for stopping by :)

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  2. With chronic illness you have to learned to accept it. It is not easy to do. That is one reason I try to think positive! At first it will consume especially if you let it it. When I think back to my reactions after I first learn about Gluten Intolerance many of them not necessary.


    1. Betty, your comments always make me feel a little less alone, thank you. I’m working on the acceptance thing. It’s just that it’s hard enough to wrap your head around a disease but to also grasp forever with it takes some time. I’m not all bad I promise. I have hope and positivity too. I’m a fighter, don’t worry :)

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  3. Illness is stressful and draining. I’m sorry to hear you are still struggling. I hope things get better for you very soon. Good luck with the writing and have a wonderful birthday!


  4. I’m sorry you’re not feeling well. I hope things get better.

    My week was good. I spent the last couple of days in Savannah with my family, which didn’t leave a lot of time to write. But once in a while, you need a break. I’ve been thinking about a story I’ve been working on for a while. And just recently, after talking with a family friend, I think there’s another story to be told. I’m processing how I want to approach this story. I’m a bit torn right now on whether to start this new story or continue the current story. Regardless, it’s going to be a focus this week.

    Hope things get better.


  5. I know the feeling of wondering if you could make it through a day of work, not eating because the pain of hunger doesn’t out weight the pain of digestion, the jobs or careers I quit because I just couldn’t make it to work, and even the disappointment after you have a few good days and you hoped it magically went away just in time for it come back stronger than before. P.S. Coffee is best before a nap.


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