I’ve wanted to start setting small goals for myself every month, but every time I try the list gets to be too long, and since I don’t know how to prioritize or decide what can be put off until the following month I get overwhelmed and do nothing at all. But doing nothing doesn’t seem to be getting me very far, so I’ve decided to try doing something instead.
So here are my small goals for the month of August 2017:
1. Schedule my driving classes. This one is the scariest. I have a phobia of driving and I’ve been trying for years to work through it. My goal was to have my license by the end of the summer but I was scared and avoided it. Now I feel like crap and I can’t go on like this anymore. A year ago I signed up for three adult one on one driving classes a year ago and I’m hoping my contract hasn’t expired, and I can still use my reaming two and get some professional help. I know I can do this, I just have to be brave!
2. Read two books. I had a goal of reading 30 books by the end of the year and I have fallen embarrassingly behind. I’m having a hard time stepping away from screens and focusing on books. I think I am officially addicted to my phone. I will have to do another purge of apps and games and make this my phone’s lock screen wallpaper again.
3. Choose a few essay collection to read nest for research. One day, sooner rather than later maybe, I’d like to write my own collection of essays. I’d like to write a lot of things, but essays have always held a special place in my heart, and all of the greats tend to compile a few into a book or two at some point. It probably isn’t smart to do it the other way around, the collection of essays before the success and fame, but this idea is something I have never been able to get out of my head. That and the great sci-fi dystopian series with a biracial genderqueer lesbian hero who saves the day and gets the girl of her dreams I know I have in me too.
Walk in the mornings, hike on the weekends. I need to start being more active, and the easiest way to start is to just get up and get out in my neighborhood every morning. I’ve already begun walking for at least 15 minutes to half an hour with my dog in the mornings, but I’d like to get a little further into nature and explore some hiking trails on the weekends before the weather starts to cool down.
Buy new furniture for the bedroom and move the old furniture out. After 15 years of sleeping on the same lumpy old mattress, my girlfriend and I finally stopped procrastinating and got a new bed and a new set of night stands. We’d like to do a proper purge of the crap that was kept in the drawers and under the bed. Then get new dressers and properly purge all our old clothes too. Then all that crap has to be moved to the garage and organized for pick-up/disposal in some other month.
Cook one meal a during the week and one big breakfast on the weekends. My girlfriend is the cook in the house. She enjoys it, and she’s good at it, but as her job duties and responsibilities intensify at work it’s up to me to stop being so spoiled and start doing more to ease her mind and show her som appreciation. That means cooking at least one meal a week and frozen pizzas and delivery do not count. In addition I’d like to introduce some variety to our morning meals and have something other than smoothies or yogurt. MAybe we’ll start our own Symmetry Breakfast, yeah?
Start planning our big vacation, or decide to we are too busy right now and postpone it until October. We need to get away, like, desperately. This summer has been so hard on us, and it’s a miracle we aren’t at each other’s throats. Somehow we have managed to stay close and to support and lean on one another through it. We still have some big changes coming but we won’t be able to meet them without this, unless we have to, in which case we’ll toughen up and survive the way we always have.
Design save the dates, maybe? We have been engaged forever, but we are chronic procrastinators, and no matter how disappointed I am every year that we don’t get our shit together and get married, we have yet to take any steps beyond browsing venues and adding to out Pinterest wedding board. This month we will be one year out from our “we’re getting married no matter what” date and I’d like to make some effort to have a wedding we will love.
The list is probably longer than it should be, and I had to fight myself to get it even this short. There is so much I want to accomplish and I want to accomplish it all right now, but I know myself too and the more I put here the harder it will be for me to even begin. Small steps, small chunks, and plenty of time to fail in is what I need.
The inspiration for these posts come from Nicole at Writes Like a Girl. Check out her goals and join the linky with your own.