If We Were Having Coffee // Winter is Here

Hello, dear readers and thank you for stopping by for a bit of caffeine and catching up. The weather is gorgeous today. Yesterday was all gloom and rain but the sun is back today, and I have all the blinds open to let it in. But I’m still feeling a bit tense and tired. I was up too late last night, and I have too much to do today, but I’m happy to stop for a moment and talk to you about how my week has gone and hear a bit about what you’ve been up to.

“Coffee is a language in itself.”

— Jackie Chan

If we were having coffee, I would wish you a very happy Game of Thrones day! Winter is finally here, and I am so ready! Me and most of my friends, the cool ones anyway, haven’t been able to talk about anything else. We have been counting down, talking up our favorite characters, and sharing rumors we’ve read online. Nothing else really matters today.

If you don’t watch you might feel like my excitement is a little over the top. To you, I say, why the hell aren’t you watching this show? I don’t watch a whole lot of TV, most of the day it’s just CBS News and most evenings its Vice News. I don’t say because I think TV is bad or because I think I’m better in some way for not watching it, it’s just not a lot of shows or movies are more exciting to me than writing. So if I like a show enough to stop writing, then it’s a damn good show, and if it’s a damn good show, it’s worth getting this excited over.

I treat these things like holidays or big sports events. I’ll be heading to the store soon for the drink, snack, and dinner ingredients we need for tonight. On the menu, tonight is a bacon wrapped figs stuffed with goat cheese appetizer, a shrimp and sausage boil/bake for dinner, and a blueberry-lavender chia pudding with a simple bourbon old fashioned for dessert.

If you want to join me in all the hype and excitement, I’ll be on twitter shouting and fangirling and following along with everyone else.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that this week I started a Coursera course on Women’s Rights and Human Rights and even though I barely have the time for it, and I’m already falling behind and stressed about having to type up a few paragraphs on the final reading of the week BY TONIGHT, I am loving it!

I love learning and studying in a structured setting and from experts and professors but there aren’t many chances for it when you aren’t going to college. This has been my first experience with anything like being a student and having homework in many, many years but it has been so inspiring and surprisingly fun that I’m already looking forward to taking another course and maybe really going to school one day.

I think it helps too that the subject matter I chose is one I am already interested in. I call myself a feminist and I feel strongly about women’s rights but I am lacking a lot of knowledge and context for the state of women’s rights-or lack thereof-on a global and historical scale. I want to learn more about the reasons why women are treated the way they are and why it’s been so hard to make progress toward a more equal society, worldwide.

Check it out if you want to join, I think you can begin whenever you want but I’d like to have a buddy or two learning along with me right now too.



If we were having coffee I would tell you that it wasn’t a good writing week, but it wasn’t a bad one either. Work was work and took up more of my time than I wanted it to but I did make progress toward less napping and more writing in my free time. I did manage one post here and I did get my “weekly” newsletter out for the first time in months, but I still didn’t do as well as I hoped.

I am happy to say that I sent my first pitch for an article this week, a piece for Wear Your Voice. I don’t think it was what they were looking for since I haven’t heard back yet but I’m proud of myself for having the courage to try. Now that I’ve sent one and presumably been rejected, I’m ready to jump in and send another.

Oh, by the way, I’m looking for a few guest posting opportunities too, I think. I want to try writing more than just personal essays. I want to get out of just talking about myself for a while. So, if you have a blog that posts a lot of feminist, civil rights, or pop culture type stuff and you are looking for contributors, please let me know in the comments and I’ll se if I can come up with something.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that I didn’t get out a whole lot this week. My girlfriend has been working a lot and by the time that she gets home it’s either too late or she’s too mentally and physically exhausted to go. I’m not upset over it, only worried about her. She’s been so stressed and it’s hard not being able to help or take on some of the load myself. I’ve been keeping up with the house the best I can, and I want to start cooking more and finding ways to make our time at home special too.

Last night we did get out for some drinks and bowling for an old friends 30th birthday. It was nice to reconnect and find that none of us are sad about turning thirty. We all agree that everything feels better now. We’re a little less confused and unsure about the world and ourselves, and we are fucking up way less than we used to. It’s been liberating!

We want to try to see each other more. We’re hoping 30 has been good to some other friends we’ve grown away from and we can reach out and reconnect. We are hoping the anger has had time to cool and there is a chance to repair the damage that was done within our group now that we’re all a little more mature and secure in ourselves.


If we were having coffee, I would tell you that unfortunately, I have to go. The chia seed pudding needs time to chill before tonight, and there is still laundry that I have to do before leaving for errands and grocery shopping. I hope you all had a wonderful week and that your weekend was as relaxing as you needed it to be before the work week begins again. If you are watching Game of Thrones tonight like me, let me know in the comments and if you aren’t you better have a damn good reason why.

Until next time.


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Written for the weekly Weekend Coffee Share link up hosted, once again by Part-Time Monster

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If We Were Having Coffee // I Did My Best, That Has to be Good Enough

Hello, hello dear readers, and happy Sunday. I hope your weekend is going as well as mine. I was able to get out of the house and have some fun and now I am doing my best to get as much prepared for the week as I can. This week won’t be as bad as the last and if I take some time to start it off right, I might even be able to redeem myself of the awful job I did this week.


If we were having coffee I would start by apologizing to you for being the worst blog host this week. You see, I work a split shift job and I spend most of the middle of my day doing blog type things. Here and there though I am called on to work a bunch of extra hours usually for a whole week straight. This week was one of those weeks and because I was also doing my very best to keep up with the A to Z Challenge I devoted what time I had to write and there was none left for reading and commenting.

I am so sorry and this week I promise to catch up with everyone’s very sweet comments and return the favor to all my fellow bloggers. I also have to catch up on the challenge too. I am currently only behind by one letter but I am lacking some ideas for U thru Z. I am determined to finish, though! I can do this!

Plus, if I understand things correctly, the big A to Z Challenge participants blogroll should be up for awhile afterward and I can take some time then to visit new blogs and make new blogging friends. Basically, my point is, just be patient with me, please.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that I had a great time at brunch with my girlfriend, my cousin, and my sisters. It was to celebrate my birthday and it was supposed to be much bigger but it seems everyone is busy in April so it was just us.

We went to my favorite place, Punch Bowl Social, which is basically a restaurant, bowling alley, a and bar built into an old warehouse. It’s my favorite place to go and eat hipster food and drink hipster drinks all while feeling cooler than all the people who aren’t there.

I am disappointed that a few of the other ladies I invited couldn’t come but am glad the most important ones were. I may try to set something up again in a few months, I’d love to get all my favorite girls together for more good food and drinks and conversation.


If we were having coffee I would tell that while I don’t much mention pop culture items here on these posts I am super excited for two television events this weekend. Last night Beyonce, who I have only become a big fan of in the last year or so, released her album in the form of

Last night Beyonce, who I have only become a big fan of in the last year or so, released her album in the form of an HBO special called Lemonade. It was visually stunning and the music was pretty good too. It was very emotional, detailing her marital problems, and touching on subjects of womanhood and blackness. I honestly loved it and while I once considered Beyonce to be a nothing but an entertainer, is a true artist. Seriously, it’s pretty amazing.

The other is the return of Game of Thrones tonight. Woot woot! My girlfriend and I have set up a nice dinner, drink, and dessert for this event. We are huge fans of the show and have been anxiously awaiting its return. I am hoping Jon Snow is still alive since he is my favorite and I hope to see lots more Daenerys Targaryen because she is incredibly badass and beautiful. I’ll probably be on Twitter tonight, live tweeting my excitement if you’re interested.


If we were having coffee I would tell you that that I have been feeling “that summer feeling” lately. Summertime has always been my favorite of the year and it is the time when my girlfriend and I feel the most us. It is sleeping with the windows open and cuddling in the morning breeze. It is the most restful naps on the couch in the midday heat. It is venturing out in the warm evening air and finding patios to drink on and friends to laugh with. It is laying awake at night and watching the lightning and listening to the rain.

Our relationship was made in the summer and we make it again every year. The closer we get to it the more my spirits rise nd the more all I can think of is her. *sigh*


If we were having coffee I would tell you that I am starting to get anxious about the housework and writing I have left to do and I think I had better head out. I’ve enjoyed our chat and I hope very much you have forgiven me for being a bit busy this week. I’d love to hear how you are doing so please, drop a note in the comments and let me know what you’ve been up to.

See you next week :)

Featured image via Jerry Lai