If We Were Having Coffee – January Wrap-up Edition

If we were having coffee I would be having just a big cup of plain old coffee. Nothing fancy for me today, no macchiatos or lattes. Just coffee and I want it strong, with lots of milk and sugar.

If we were having coffee I would probably remark that I am so glad that January is finally over. It is such a long and cold month, I started to fear it would never end. I look forward to the short month and moving closer to spring. This month should be an easy one, but I say that at the beginning of every month. There really is no rest for the wicked.

If we were having coffee I would say that even though I am glad to see it go January wasn’t all bad. I think I made some progress with blogging and writing in general. I posted more often, but not as much as I wanted. I started an editorial calendar, which I did well with for about a week before I started getting lazy. I haven’t abandoned it though, I have a ton scheduled for February. I moved whatever I didn’t get done over to the new month. Some of it even went into March.

If we were having coffee I would say that I am already behind in my goal to read more books this year. This month I only read two and I don’t even think they count since they were both tiny books. I read The Yellow Wallpaper by Charlotte Perkins Gilman, and Show Your Work by Austin Kleon.

The former was only 45 pages, and the latter, was mostly pictures.

I did start War of the Worlds and Rant which I hope to finish this month. I also want to read a several shorter books for Black History Month. I have The Souls of Black Folk, Up From Slavery, Narrative of Sojourner Truth, Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass, and two books of African-American poetry.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that I also have joined a new blogging event, “1000 Speak for Compassion“. The idea is to “get 1000 bloggers to write about compassion, kindness, support, caring, non-judgment, care for the environment, ect., and all post on the same day, Feb 20th.” I thought this sounded like a really nice thing. A time to talk about something good for once. I am all about compassion and empathy so this seemed right up my alley. I haven’t figured out the angle I want to go with yet but I’m working on it.

If we were having coffee I would encourage you to take a look and consider joining in. Take a look at the Facebook group and add your name to their long, and growing, list of participating bloggers. And If you write any posts about it use the hashtag #1000speak. I look forward to reading everyone’s posts on the big day.

If we were having coffee I would tell you that I am aware that today is Super Bowl Sunday, practically a national holiday here in the the United States, but I am not a big football fan so I don’t really celebrate the day. I don’t have any predictions nor am I rooting for either team. I will only be watching if I end up seeing my family (which I do every Sunday anyway) and they have it on. I do hope that everyone who is watching, or does care how this turns out, has a great time and enjoys the game.

If you’re like me and don’t celebrate the Super Bowl holiday, then I hope you enjoy the rest of your Sunday.

Monday is coming up fast and we’ll all have to get back to the hustle.


If We Were Having Coffee

If we were having coffee I would probably order something festive this time. Lattes in flavors like gingerbread and peppermint are usually too sweet for me but tonight I’m craving the added sugar. I would tell you that this past week has been a busy one for me. It was a good week but I’m not sure if that’s because good things happened or because it ended and now I am on winter break. Two weeks off of work!

If we were having coffee I would tell you that I I am very happy to announce that I got nominated for an award at work. It’s not a big, big deal but it was very nice to get some recognition. In case you don’t know I work for a very big school district in the Denver, CO area. I work as an assistant on a special needs school bus and I get extra hours throughout the week working in the training department. I teach people how to transport special needs students safely. I enjoy my job but at times I am frustrated by the lack of recognition I get. This award nomination was something I have been waiting for for a long time.

So that means I got to have some pictures taken of me doing what I do, I had my name announced as a nominee throught the whole district, and I get to attend a fancy dinner in February. I have been congratulated by more and more people everyday and my bosses have really been making me feel awesome. Of course there are a few people raining on my parade but I won’t let them ruin this for me. I’ve worked hard at this job for over 8 years, I think I’ve earned a little time in the spotlight.

If we were having coffee I would tell that I am beginning to feel the stress of the holidays. I still have a ton of Christmas shopping to do. I know, I know, Christmas is only a few days away, I need to quit procrastinating and get ‘er done already. I do this every year even though I tell myself every year that I won’t wait until the last minute. Christmas shopping is just so overwhelming for me! The large crowds, the large of gift options, or lack of gift options, the doubts about every gift you buy, I hate all of it! My anxiety levels skyrocket while Christams shopping.

Luckily for me my girlfriend has volunteered to do some of it on her own while I go into work for a few hours. I don’t have to work but something has come up so I voluteered to work a bit. I will be taking it easy though! Since I am working my ole lady is going to do a bit of housework and shopping. She’s much better at it anyway. She’s the type of person who doesn’t freeze up when forced to make even the most basic of life decisions. I guess that’s part of why I love her so much.

Speaking of my girlfriend, if we were having coffee I would tell you that Chrismas has had a wonderfully positive effect on my relationship. My and my girl have been back in the honeymoon phase since Thanksgiving and I am loving it. We are happy with each other the rest of the year too but Christmas time has us excited about gifts and indulging in good food and sweet cocktails. All of that adds up to lots of love, love, love! Christmas isn’t usually thought of as a romantic holiday but I am telling you that it is. Christmas is the time to completely spoil your spouse and we take that very seriously.

So yes I guess it really was a good week. I hope yours was too. I don’t know how much I will be around over the next couple of weeks so I’m going to take this opportunity to wish you a very merry holiday and a happy, happy New Years :)

If We Were Having Coffee #2


If we were having coffee I would tell you that today, I feel good. Me and Chardonnay have had a great weekend. Friday we started watching last season of True Blood, we also had margaritas. Saturday we went to brunch with Chardonnay’s parents. We tried out a new place we’ve been wanting to go to called Punch Bowl Social. We were actually thinking about having our wedding reception there and this was a good excuse to go look at the place. We liked it a lot. The food was good and the place looked nice. It’s got the industrial look we love and with the arcade games and bowling lanes would make it perfect. After brunch we went shopping. We were already off of Broadway which means I had to go to my favorite store, Ironwood. We checked out a couple of other stores and bought us each new shirts.

Then we went home and got lazy. We watched more True Blood and I took a nap. I got up and around 7 started getting ready. We went to new a new movie theater that I had heard so many great things about, the Alamo Drafthouse. We watched an old vampire movie called Near Death and we liked it. They gave us free fangs and gooey blood candy and we ordered cocktails and loaded fries and hot wings. It really was a lot of fun. So much so that I think we will make brunch and shopping and movies at the Alamo Drafthouse a monthly thing.

If we were having coffee I would also tell you that I haven’t seen my father for his birthday yet and I feel bad about it. His birthday was on the 15th of August and I told him we would get together but I just haven’t gotten around to it. I have done other things but seeing him I have to admit is not yet a priority for me. I want it to be but doing the work is more than I guess I am willing to do. I feel bad about that but I am just being honest.

I would also tell you that I am enjoying blogging but I have found I have less time for it than I thought I did. I am trying my best to make the time. I even signed up for NaBloPoMo AKA National Blog Posting Month for the month of September. I hope to do it again in November too! This month’s theme is healing and I think I need that. I have a feeling this blog is going to turn out to be a lot more personal than I originally thought and I think healing is a good place to start.

I am taking social media a lot more seriously too now. Twitter is now the first place I go to find out whats going on in the world. The events going on in Ferguson have affected me deeply and Twitter is the only place to get up to the minute news on what is happening there. I wish I could have been there to protest with those brave people. I hope the nation doesn’t forget.

The events in Ferguson have also brought up a lot of complicated feeling I have about race and racism. I am biracial and in my family everything has to do with the fact that I am mixed. I am always too white or too black. I don’t fit in anywhere, accept for with my siblings, all of whom are mixed too. Both on the internet and in the real world though I feel excluded from talks about race. I am told that because I am light-skinned I have privilege and I don’t understand what it is like to be black. I admit in a way they are right, but they are also wrong. Maybe I will write about it some other time, about how my whole life has revolved around being biracial.

If we were having coffee I would also tell you that I am still feeling a little bit down. I would tell you not to worry about me though. I would tell you that I am going to be ok, I just get down sometimes. Depression is just a part of who I am and I fear it always will be but I have learned to cope with it. I know that I have so much to be grateful for and I am luckier than most. I know that I have people who care about me and love me and that is something to keep fighting for. I won’t give up or give in. I will keep pushing toward living a happier and healthier life, and I hope that you are doing the same.